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Tuesday, March 22, 2011

真爱不讲条件 - 文章转摘


真爱不讲条件



假使你以为,男女之恋的发动,靠的是对象的条件能够满足你的需求,那么有一天,当条件消失了,是否就选择离开?
如果你用外貌选女人,终究将遇到只懂用学历、财富、社会地位选男人的女人。 为何情人一个换过一个,却遇不见真爱?
现代人常常错想爱情,妄想选择外在条件最好的,就是最适合的。然而,如果以世俗外在条件(男需多金,女要美丽)的好坏来择偶。有一天,习惯了、看腻了,碰上条件更好的,是否就琵琶别抱?
如果一个人的爱情观,重视对象的条件能否满足自己,胜于自己“爱的能力”能否满足这段关系。那么,条件将成为爱情的魔障,迷惑你。无论你迷恋的是外貌、家世、财富、工作、学养、气质谈吐,都是一样。这些都可能消失,消失之后,爱也就随风而逝了吗?
这也是为何,现代社会许许多多明明外貌、学历、财力、品味等条件样样好的男女,情人却是一个接一个换,碰上A,够有钱但却嫌不够体贴;B则体贴但不够有钱;C则体贴又有钱但不够帅…….,总之,没一个能令其满意。 爱的对象?爱的能力?
佛洛姆说,爱情成功的关键,不在于“爱情的对象”的有无、好坏,而在你自己“爱的能力”是否充足饱满。
懂得爱的人,碰上对的人,便会用对的方式,去爱对方,和对方相处,甚至在相处过程中,去引导彼此,在关系里共同成长。
真正的爱,不是因为有一个对象很可爱所以爱,真正的爱是因为自己有了爱人的能力,碰上了值得爱的人,选择用一生的承诺守护彼此的爱。
现世代有太多的人,以为真爱的构成,是靠订定严苛条件的满足来寻找,却根本忽略了自己是不是有能力去爱人。 然而,人很有限,常常不知道什么才是对自己最好最合适的,此时此刻认为最好的(但未必是最好的,如果自己不够成熟而看不清自己到底要什么),或者自己无法达成的理想,投射到情人身上,盼望你的情人能够拥有,好替你完成人生梦想(这也是为何不少女人迷恋有钱男人,而男人迷恋美丽女人的原因)。 没有能力爱人的人,即便碰上再好的对象,也无法抓住幸福。 真正的爱情,应像一碗清汤荞麦面。
真正的爱情,应像一碗清汤荞麦面。 简单、纯粹,清爽的令人心旷神怡。 爱情里若搀了太多身份、金钱、成就、工作、学历、身高、体重的条件,就好像一碗作料丰富的料理,或许看起来美味,但实际上,吃下肚后,你的胃未必承受的了!
真正的爱情不是要找“最好”、“完美”的情人,而是要找最“适合”,能够像家人一样自然相处,吵架也能合好,虽然对方有些自己无法容忍的小缺点(像是马桶盖不盖,牙膏不从尾巴挤,东西不爱物归原处等等生活小细节),但却还是接纳。
最重要的是,身边的情人,一定和自己相处起来轻松、愉快,在一起没有负担,自然而不用扭捏作态,可以显露真正的自己。 当你真正懂得“爱”一个人的时候,就算是一起蹲在路边摊吃ㄧ碗清汤荞麦面,都能感到无比幸福与满足。


文章转摘自佳礼中文论坛

Friday, March 4, 2011

03/03/11 - Outdated blog

Phew.... Rushing for my endless job everyday..... Except on Sunday.

I need a good rest every night and need to relax and reduce my stress on my lovely Sunday~

My blog is few months outdated.....

And I need a quite long time to updated it coz I need quite a lot of time to upload my photos here.

Will try my vest to update it.... Wanna make my blog updated~



It's late for me now....


Going to bed and to be continue A.S.A.P

:)


Good night and Sweet Dreams~

Thursday, March 3, 2011

15/12/10 - 18/12/10 Singapore Trip

Had a nice trip with my dear brother, Shi Yi and sister ~

Relax, Enjoyed, Happy trip with them <3

I didn't take more photos... coz they got bring their own camera. So... mostly the photos are with them.

I do not have time to copy from their memory card...



Overall for this Singapore trip.... It's nice~

Although this is not the first time I came, but, It's first time I came with bro and sis.
It's kinda different feeling.

I really love to have a trip with my family member~

Hope that we can come out have a short trip every year?? hehe....



Along the Orchard Road~









At China Town in the midnight.... Hunting for some food


Universal Studio ...

A lot of people... It's really PEAK... SUPER PEAK DAY!!!












Cute couple <3
















Rush to Night Safari from Universal Studio....It's quite late when we reach there.




Glow in the dark






Back to hotel....


Bugis Junction.... SHOPPING~


Illuma



Meet Arr Chian & Fei Fei





Waiting long queue for KOI Bubble Tea.
Taste not bad~












On the way back.... wow....





Our view from room...











Night @ Sentosa





While waiting for the show - SONG OF THE SEA






















Room for me and sis



























Bought 2 pairs of shoes for myself...hehe...